This morning while I was waiting for the coffee to brew I was playing around on Google Earth. I decided to look up our house that we sold in Baton Rouge. I shouldn’t have. We worked so hard on that house after it flooded. We had the yard looking so good. I worked my butt off on it putting in new beds and getting the grass up and going again. To see it not being taken care of breaks my heart. Here is what I saw.
I loved this house so much. I can’t see the inside, but I hope that it’s more taken care of than the outside. I pulled up our photos from right before we moved and it made me even sadder.
I really miss Baton Rouge.
On a happier note. Look what Donny and I saw on the trail this morning.
Yesterday morning after I mowed I decided, since I was already sweaty, I would go for a hike down the trail adjacent to our neighborhood. It was such a gorgeous day and it was made even better because about 98% of this trail is shaded by a canopy of trees.
A creek runs through this area. It’s where we let Ollie, our rescue possum, loose.
You don’t have to stay on the asphalt trail because there are some primitive trail shoot offs.
One thing I noticed yesterday was that there was so much trash on the trail. I can’t understand how people can just throw there trash into the woods or just leave it right on the trail. So this morning I decided to take a trash bag and go collect it.
Most of it I could get to easily, but there was a lot deeper in. This is what I was running into.
Very sharp thorny trees. There were also these thin vines that had so many thorns that would wrap around my ankles and legs. I crawled through as many as I could to get what I could see.
There is a small plastic cup in the pic above that I just couldn’t get because of the thorn vines. I didn’t want to get any more cut up.
I ended up collecting an entire bag before I hit the turnaround. So I guess, all in all, it was a good workout carrying it back to the trail head.
Some of the weird things I found were cut off legs from camo pants, a sock, a clothes hanger and a shirt. These were not all in the same place. I also found a half empty gallon of orange drink that was very old. I did not open it to dump it out.
There were also so many Beauty Berry plants. I just love them.
The next time I go back to pick up litter I’ll be sporting jeans, boots and a long sleeve shirt.
P.S.
I got my hair cut last Saturday so I wanted to document it to remember when I had it done. We only cut an inch off, but put more layers in it. I just let it dry naturally in this pic trying to embrace my waves.
While I was scrolling Instagram today, I saw this picture.
I have seen so many people already putting up Halloween and Fall decorations. When I go into the stores holiday decorations are already on the shelves. I get it because I was once a buyer for a store and I know that Fall merchandise begins arriving in July. That doesn’t make me feel good about it though.
I admit that it’s easy to fall into the trap of always looking ahead, longing for what is coming up. Summer is waning and Autumn is just around the corner but I feel like I am letting Summer down by rushing into the next season before one is truly over. I’ve decided that I am going to savor the rest of Summer. I’m going to lean into the hot days that are left because I know that when we are in the coldest days I will be longing for the hot sunny days I was wishing away a few months prior.
I will take my time ushering Fall in. I want to not be rushing through my days, but to savor each and every one. I want to take pleasure in all of the little things and not rely so heavily on waiting for the big things.
Speaking of little things, Donny and I were in Big Lots and found that all of their summer merchandise is 50% off. We found some solar lights to hang from the jasmine trellis. Will they stay there? Who knows, but for right now I really like the little bit of extra light they give to our side yard.
I am not a chip eater, but Jackson and I were in Walmart a few days ago and he bought some new Doritos. Not a Dorito fan, but I tried one of his and OMG they were the very best chips I’ve ever had. I only ate 2 of his, but could not stop thinking about them. Today Donny and I had to make a Walmart run because I wanted to make roast beef croissant sandwiches for dinner and you can bet I bought a bag of these magical chips.
I am not a big fan of curry or spicy for that matter, but these are so good. Not very curry or spicy. I actually may have bought two bags and hidden one.
A few weeks ago my daughter Bethany was moving to the hill country with her family. They found the cutest house, the only problem was, the landlord didn’t allow cats. No problem, we met her in Waco and picked up her cat Queso. This is how he rode the whole way back.
When we got home I picked up the cat burrito, but I didn’t realize just how big this cat was and he almost slid out of my arms. He is another tuxedo cat like Milo but he has extremely long legs and tail. He is an inside/outside cat like all of ours are.
At first the other cats were not really sure about him, but he quickly made friends with Milo.
One thing Bethany failed to mention was that he preferred way to sleep in on your chest with his head on your chin and then he drools. Yeah, he sleeps at the foot of our bed. He also loves to rough house. Last night Donny said he was wrestling with Milo, got over excited and ran and jumped on the bathroom door jam head height.
He is such a sweet boy though.
And now for some random information. I have mentioned this product before, but I washed a load of laundry and didn’t realize that Hannah had an open lipstick in her jeans pocket. Didn’t notice until I took everything out of the dryer and saw all of the red, yes it was red lipstick, on the clothes. I immediately grabbed this and started spraying.
Every bit came out of Donny’s pants and jeans. The only place that is still red is the pocket of her jeans where she had it.
I swear that stuff is magic because the lipstick was all over the front.
I love planners. Every year I get one from Big Lots. I don’t get a planner at the start of the year, but in July because I use it for the school year. This year when I went to get one, Big Lots didn’t have any. None. I was really bummed because they are really good planners and are under $10. I decided to hit up Ross because it’s in the same strip mall. I found an even better one than the ones I usually use and it was only $8.99. So if you need a planner definitely hit them up. There were so many to choose from also.
Big Lots last year planner:
It was cute, but it was the size of a spiral notebook, so almost too big.
This one is thicker and smaller:
It also has a pocket in the back which is going to come in handy.
There’s nothing like a brand new planner.
Also we got a surprise rain shower today. Not a lot, just enough to wet the lawn clipping bags enough to where the bottoms are going to fall out. They should have been picked up yesterday when the trash ran.
We are making progress in the side yard. I pulled up all of the weeds around my jasmine. They had gotten so bad. I didn’t take a before picture, but they were taller than the planter.
I guess a little progress is still progress, right?
Today I felt it. Fall is right around the corner. Well, at least what we consider Fall here in East Texas. It was slightly overcast and there was actually a breeze. I have been watching the weather all week so I decided today would be a perfect day to mow. I was so right because when I finished I did not look like I had just crossed the Sahara. It’s been two weeks since I’ve mowed and I honestly could have probably gone another week. The weather is changing. Grass is growing slower, days are getting shorter. That doesn’t mean that we will still not have heat advisory days, but I’m still hopeful that there won’t be too many.
At the beginning of Spring our front yard was AWFUL. There were so many bare patches that it was embarrassing. I am proud to say that we have been working on it all summer and it’s finally looking good.
We have some butterfly bushes and cantaloupe growing on the left side which makes our bed look out of control but it really isn’t.
Can you spot the cantaloupe?
I also weeded the front beds that were surprisingly easy.
I am really ready for some cooler weather and we are getting there slowly but surely.
I also need to add that we actually decided, on the spur of the moment Sunday night to go to Fun Noodle Bar. It normally takes us hours to decide where to eat if we are actually “planning” it. Sunday afternoon before Donny got home I just did not feel like cooking so I made the decision that we should go. It’s a mile from our house and, we’ve only eaten there once before, but it was good.
I’m adding this because I wanted to document the best sushi we’ve eaten here. It actually rivals Kumori, but the rolls are about $4 cheaper. This was Donny’s. ONLY his.
Jackson’s was impressive also.
It was such a fun dinner. I think it has become my new favorite place to go.
I came thisclose to getting a smile from Jackson. Grrrrr, that kid and pictures.
One more really good thing that happened today was that I found my hair stylist. She had left the salon, given me her cell number and then I couldn’t find it. Well, I found it today, texted her and have an appointment Saturday. I get anxiety when I get my hair cut due to a really bad cut I got when we lived in Arlington and I had to go really short. I completely trust Desiree. She is so good. I think it’s been almost a year since I’ve gotten it cut so it is WAY passed time. Here is a before and I guess I’ll have an after Saturday night.
The morning of July 22nd I went outside, like I always do, to make sure the cats had food and water. I saw a cat laying on its back in our yard. When I got closer I saw that the cat wasn’t alive and then right there and then I knew that it was Bailey. I started sobbing and ran in and got Donny. I asked him, “is it Baliley?” and he told me, “I’m afraid so”.
She didn’t have any marks on her that we saw. She looked like she was just sleeping on her back, something that she never does, but Tommy our other tabby does quite often. Donny had to get ready to leave for work so he put her in a trash bag and placed her in our garbage can so he could bury her when he got home. I couldn’t stand the thought of my precious baby girl in the trash can, so I got the pick ax and shovel out of the shed went to the tree line where she loved to hang out and started rage/grief digging. I wrapped her in a blanket and covered her up with dirt.
Bailey was not your typical cat. I was her person. She would meow at me when it was time to go to bed, follow me into the bathroom while i washed my face and then would run into our bedroom, jump on the bed and wait for me. She was not a gentle cuddler. She would throw her body right up against mine and lay her head on my pillow. Most days I woke up with her wrapped around my head. She loved to watch TV with me and had to be right up where I was. I swear she was the most human like cat I have ever seen.
The first time I saw her was at the Harley dealership where Donny worked. I was in the car and the band that had been playing at bike night was packing up. I saw a little cat meowing at them to get there attention. I told Donny that we needed to get her, but he said that she must live around there. About a week later our friend Tara who works with Donny got in touch with me to see if we would take this cat she found living in the bushes at work. Tara does animal rescue on the side and told me she would get her spade and all of her shots if we would take her. Donny finally agreed and on August 19th 2019 Bailey became a member of our household.
I will forever miss her superman arms when she wanted to be held and carried around and just how much confidence and spunk was wrapped up in such a small body. I don’t know if I will ever have another cat such as her.
Our last night in Corpus we had heard of this cool bar/restaurant that was family friendly. You could purchase a wristband and have unlimited game play for the whole night. We didn’t really know what to expect, but we decided to give it a go anyway.
We found out that on Tuesdays it’s taco Tuesday and they rent out their kitchen to a taco truck. We had our choice of Birria or Carne Asada tacos. We all chose Birria except for Hannah. They were the best tacos I have ever had. The plate came with 3 tacos, sauce and a bean stew. I couldn’t even finish mine.
Donny and I decided to eat up on the rooftop deck. The kids thought it was too windy so they ate downstairs. We loved it.
My favorite part, of course, were the pinball machines.
I caught Gavin playing the Iron Maiden one.
Hannah likes Guitar Hero.
There were so many different arcade games. Many that I remembered from going to the Quarter Deck which was our choice of game rooms in high school. The floor was see through down to the restaurant and bar.
If you just wanted to hang out and watch sports they also got ya covered.
I wish I would have gotten some pictures of Jackson, but he hates having his picture taken. He really liked this place too. We played air hockey and I think I’ve gotten him to like pinball. Well maybe.
Downtown Corpus has come so far. It used to be a place that you didn’t really want to go to at night. Now there are so many fun restaurants it’s hard to believe it’s my hometown.
I managed to snap a picture of this cool mural as we were driving back to our airbnb.
You really should visit Corpus Christi if you get a chance. It’s such a fun place and there really is a lot to do here.
Since Bethany and Cassidy were leaving on Monday she wanted to go to the beach. Hannah, Gavin and Jackson wanted to tour the Lexington so while we headed to the beach, Donny dropped the kids off at the Lex and met Bethany and me at the beach.
Cassidy loved the water. Luckily there were no red or purple flags flying, only a yellow flag which means swim with caution. We found out why. There were SO many jellyfish floating around in the water. I grew up in Corpus and have never seen that many in one place before. We caught one in a bucket so we could watch it swim around.
We still had so much fun running around in the little tide pools. Cassidy loved the “big beach”.
After a takeout dinner from King’s Seafood Bethany and Cassidy had to head back home because she had to work the next day. If you are ever in Corpus I highly recommend King’s. It’s not fancy and the prices are really good plus their fried shrimp is to die for.
While Bethany was in the kitchen she happened to look in the cup with the hermit crab shell and sure enough she saw a crab peek out of the shell. We couldn’t keep the poor thing so we took it back down to the bay and let it have its freedom.
The next morning, while everyone was still asleep, I decided to take a walk down to Oleander Point where we had taken the crab back. There is a little staircase that leads to a rocky beach. I wanted to do one more hunt for sea glass.
I had never been down to that cove. I had the beach to myself. It was so peaceful.
I heard someone coming and it was a lady racing down the stairs yelling “I made it. I made it. I made it”. She ran by me straight into the water and started dancing around telling me again that she had made it. Of course I had to ask her where did you make it from and she proceeded to tell me that she lived in Missouri and that it was her 59th birthday. She decided that she was just going to take a road trip, wanted to see the beach and she had just driven in. She was so happy and asked me if this was the beach. I told her it was the bay. She wanted to see the beach with the waves and the sand so I gave her directions and she thanked me and danced off to go put her toes in the sand. I hope she had a wonderful sandy day.
I stayed a little while longer then went to wake up the kids so they could have their beach day.
This post is heavy in pictures, but I just love the bay so much. I got a couple of our secret cove from the top.
Jackson decided that he didn’t want to go to the beach with us. (he REALLY does not like sand and we had something planned for that evening that I knew he’d love.) Rousing up two teenagers to get ready to go takes a lot of patience, but we finally got out the door and back to the beach. Gavin had never been. His family has land on the border of Arkansas and Missouri so that’s where they spend their vacations. He was not disappointed. For some weird reason the jellyfish were gone except for a random couple we saw floating around.
I found a big shell to add to Gavin’s collection.
I know some people rag on Corpus’ beaches, but I absolutely love them. Is the water crystal clear? No, but it is where I grew up and I love the smell of the salt air and the way you skin feels after you get out of the water. The smell of sunscreen and the way the sand sucks at your feet when the waves come in. It feels like home.
My blown glass fish where I keep all of the sea glass I have found over the years was fed once more.
It’s a 7 hour drive to Corpus Christi from where we live. That is a long drive with 5 people in an Elantra, but we made it on time for our airbnb check in at 3. There is nothing like that first smell of salt air. Bethany and Cassidy met us there from San Antonio. After we brought all of our bags in and got everyone’s rooms situated we decided to order food from one of our favorite seafood restaurants, but it was closed because it was Sunday. We just grabbed some Whataburger so we could quickly eat and walk down to our secret cove to hunt for sea glass, shells and hermit crabs.
It’s not actually a “secret” cove, but every time we go down there no one is there. We used to live one street over from where our airbnb is so we were excited to go back to our cove.
I couldn’t believe how many hermit crabs we found. Their shells were so pretty. We brought some of them up on the beach so that Cassidy could see them crawl around. Of course we put them back where we found them, but we did find one shell that didn’t have a crab in it so we brought that one back to the airbnb with us.
Cassidy loved climbing on the rocks.
It’s always so peaceful and the view is wonderful.
This has always been one of my favorite places.
Donny stayed back to rest, but I actually got Jackson to come with us. He is not a fan of sand.
My crazy daughter.
She was waiting for the hermit crab in front of her to come out of its shell.
My sister is 14 years older than I am. I have no other siblings, it’s just the two of us. When I was 3 years old she started dating this guy that was quite a bit older than she was. She was a senior in high school at the time. I’m not exactly sure how my parents felt about it because I was too young to be included in these conversations, but I know that they probably weren’t too happy. The only things I remember about him was that he drove a big car and, in my 3 year old mind, he wasn’t bad looking. His name was Fred.
Here is a picture of my sister and me. I was the mascot for her high school drill team.
My sister broke up with Fred. From what I have gathered is was an ugly breakup. She left for Kilgore College when I was 4. We were living in Corpus so it was, at that time, about an 8 to 9 hour drive. He followed her up to college and my parents had to get the college security involved. I’m not sure exactly what happened, but it was about to get worse for us in Corpus Christi.
We started receiving obscene phone calls at all hours of the night. We didn’t know who or why they were calling, but my parents finally found out that someone had written our phone number on just about every sleazy bar bathroom wall there was. My parents fully believed that it was Fred who had done it since we had had so many problems from him.
Then one day my mom got a phone call from a women she didn’t know. She told my mother that she had gone to San Antonio with Fred and while they were there he had told the woman that he blamed my mother for him and my sister breaking up. He told her the only way he knew to ruin her life was to kidnap her youngest daughter, which was me. The woman was freaked out about it because, as she told my mother, he was serious and she thought he was crazy. My mother got in touch with the police, but because she didn’t have this woman’s phone number, this was way before caller ID, they couldn’t do anything. They did come out and show her how to shoot a gun and told her that if he was climbing into our window to shoot him and drag the body inside.
By this time I was 5 years old. Everything was going smoothly. We would still get phone calls, but we had someone go into every bar restroom in Corpus and if they saw anything about us they made sure it was taken care of.
Fast forward several years. It was a Sunday morning and my parents and I were getting ready for church. The phone rings and I answered it. There is a man on the other end and he asks, “Stacy, how old are you now?”. I asked, “What?’ and he repeated what he had asked me. I told him “I’m 11.” and he hung up. I went into my parents bedroom because for some reason the call really made me anxious. My dad just looked at my mom and said something like, never tell anyone how old you are on the phone. Now mind you, I had absolutely NO idea that he had threatened to kidnap me. I still ran around outside with my friends and came in when the street light came on or my Aunt Norma rang the big bell. It was life as usual.
A couple of years go by. We live out in the country. My dad was Principal of the school that we lived right next door to. Our house was kind of tucked away behind the school. My grandfather, on my mother’s side, lived with us 6 months out of the year and with my aunt in Mandeville, LA the other 6 months. That arrangement had been going on for years. One day our phone rings and the man on the other end of the line asks me, “Stacy, where is your grandfather?”. We had recently taken him back to Louisiana for his 6 months with my aunt. Luckily my dad was standing right there when the phone rang and he took the receiver from me and told Fred not to call us ever again. I still didn’t know the extent of the situation.
Now we have moved into the city of Corpus. I was getting ready to graduate high school. My cousins, who lived in this tiny town in Texas near San Antonio, came down to go to the graduation. We were all sitting around the kitchen table talking when my cousin told my mother that they had the weirdest thing happen to them recently. This guy walks up to their home, they lived on a dairy farm far from anything and down a dirt road, because he had car trouble and asked to use their phone. I need to mention that they are the ONLY people in Texas that have our last name that we are related to. It is also a very unusual last name. He asked what their names were. When they told him, he asked if they had relatives in Corpus. They told him that they did and confirmed that it was our family. The very next question out of his mouth was, what is Stacy doing now. They didn’t know not to tell him, so they told him I was graduating from high school and told him where I was going to college. My mother’s face turned white and she asked my cousin, “What was his name?’. My cousin couldn’t remember so she called out to her husband in the next room and he said, “Oh, it was Fred, Fred Lerma”. My parents told them what had been happening for years and they felt so bad for telling him anything about me. They said he just seemed so nice and what a coincidence it was that he happened to have “car trouble” right by their house. They told my parents that all he really wanted to talk about was my family and mainly me.
This is when my parents had to tell me what was going on because now that he knew where I was going to be going to school and the fact that it was several hours away meant I had to be very aware of my surroundings. It really did freak me out now that I had all of the pieces to the puzzle. My parents had told me when I was younger that if I ever saw Fred near our home or anywhere that I should immediately tell them and not to speak to him but to just get away from where he was. I did think that was a little weird at the time. One day I was playing outside and a car that looked just like his pulled around to our house. I jumped up and ran inside to tell my mother but it turned out to just be a friend of my sister’s coming to visit. Even though I was very young I still remember the fear when I saw that car.
I have no answers to why he did this. My sister doesn’t like talking about it and my parents are both deceased. I never heard anything about him after my graduation, but that doesn’t mean he wasn’t still keeping tabs on me. I couldn’t figure out why there was a big gap from when it first started until the phone calls started, but when I googled him I found out that he had enlisted in the army.
Here is his death information and the picture of him that I found on his social media.